FEMALE CHILD ABUSE

OMG! OMG!! OMG!!! He's taken my virginity? He took my dignity? I couldn't stop shedding tears after all these questions popped into my mind. I decided not to tell anyone as I have promised him and wished God didn't see what his son has done. Am I foolish to be too nice to this man of God? Is he really a man of God? I was in a deep thought when my mummy entered and asked what was wrong...

What was wrong? I couldn't hide the experience I had in school with my chaplain ( a man of God? Devil)?.

My name is Bisola and I'm 18yrs old. I was just a normal girl in my school / class but known generally in school when it came to church works. My chaplain, a claimed man of God was one of my mentors back in school and I took him as a father who I could tell almost everything concerning my studies, christian lifestyle and personal things. Did he see me as his daughter? His student? I never knew because he was just too nice to me whenever I went to his office to explain some things to him.

Oh, can a devil use a man of God?

One faithful day, I got a call from him asking me to see him after my classes that day and I went straight to his office after the last class I had that day. I wanted to take my closest friend (Bose) along but since it was just an emergency call, I had to rush down to his office alone. When I got to his office, I met this young good looking lady who was on her way out when I entered "You this shameless man" was the last statement this woman said to my chaplain but I didnt give much attention either because I was tired or just minding my business as a young girl. Pastor **#**## looked sad and suddenly smiled when he saw me. He greeted me and I greeted him but couldn't get the last statement off my mind "You this shameless man". He stood up from his seat and moved closer to my seat, I didn't get the message at first not until he started making some jelly fish eyes and rubbing my body while talking to me about some nothing topics. Could this be real? Am I dreaming? I asked myself but couldn't get an answer because I was tensed. "Sir, I can't do this..... sir I don't even understand why you are doing all these" and he replied "Bisola, you are not a kid anymore, nobody will know about this".... I couldn't take it anymore, I stood up and ran out of his office. Got back to my hostel and couldn't stop shedding tears. Over what exactly? Was it because he backslide? Was it because I made him touch me that long? I couldn't figure but I didn't get myself all through that night.

How adamant can the devil be before getting what he wants?

I woke up to see a message from my chaplain, I ignored it at first for some hours but couldn't keep my mind off it so I went back to the text message and replied with "Ok, I will come... 5pm is ok sir"... Guess what he sent at 1st? "Good morning sis Bisola, I'm deeply sorry for whatever I tried to do yesterday, please forgive me and let's meet in my house outside school for a brief meeting"....
I was just 18 + naive over issues like this. I didn't have anybody to speak to ( my parents were too busy to listen to me, especially about my relationship life and I'm the only girl/child) but chaplain was the only one that had my time. I dressed up, picked up my bag and went to his house. He was the only one I met in that big silent house but I never suspected anything since he's a claimed man of God and of course my school chaplain. Bla bla bla bla

I couldn't remember what happened but I was on a bed shedding tears, I saw a white bedsheet stained with red colour... "Did you paint the bedsheet with poster colour red"? I asked but never got a response from a man who disguised to be pained and remorse. I couldn't stop crying because I lost my virginity of 18yrs that night to not just a man but my chaplain. "Please don't tell anyone about this, promise me you won't tell anyone." I will!!!!! I shouted back at him, I will! You are not a child of God, you are a bad man and a bad example to the men of God. He returned everything I said to him with a slap, beat me like a thief that day because I yelled back. "If you ever tell, I will expel you from that school with ease, you B*#*#!!!! He gave me a bible to swear with and I did out of fear and shame.
I couldn't tell anybody, I decided to tell my parents but none of them wanted to listen to my complaints but sent me money thinking that was what I needed. I got pregnant for him and went back to tell him what he did with me then resulted to. He gave me 15 thousand to abort the pregnancy immediately because he wasn't ready to be sacked, seen as a devil or destroy his family. Since I couldn't tell anyone about my predicament at that time, I went to a nearby hospital to make the abortion and I couldn't stop crying after I had my 1st abortion. Abortion and the day I lost my virginity were likely the worst days in my life.

Guess what people? By the time I decided to tell people what has happened, I have had 5 abortions for my chaplain within 2 and half years. Oh what a shame? I would have continued my dirty act with him if I didn't develop this nasty illness that led to "Bleeding". I started bleeding seriously and when I saw and noticed this, I ran back to my chaplain and he sent me away, tagging me as a bi#*tch who couldn't close her legs and avoid temptation/s from an old man like him. I felt like shooting him, destroying everybody in his family but I was so sick to do so. I went back to my hostel and after some days of bleeding, my school contacted my parents to pick me up and get me treated as soon as possible. It was too late for my parents to know what has been happening between my chaplain and I but I told them everything that has happened.

My parents couldn't take the news the doctor told them early on Sunday morning that I have destroyed my womb and it will be difficult for me to bear a child again. WHAT?! I'm just 21!!! OMG! I felt like taking poison and die to see me live that miserable life anymore. When I got healed, I followed my parents to school to tell the school authorities about everything that has happened but guess what? I felt like a fool and a prey after my chaplain denied all I have told them. He was believed because I had no proof to show and because he's seen as a man of God. I left school with shame that sad day and never went back to school.

I'm 29 now and I'm married to this young looking banker who loves me and cares for me. We have been married to each other for over 3yrs and I haven't got pregnant but he's not bothered about it.

Please should I tell him the real story? Should I just play along? Help me and let's stop this evil act from men.

Who should I blame? Myself? My parents? My chaplain? My age?

It's high time we need to stood against "Female Child Abuse"..
This is a fiction but I want people to learn from "Bisola"'s story...

Written by Aderogba Adediji ( @realbabymouth) ...